The question that amuses me. A LOT.
From not-in-touch friends to interviewees to new colleagues and just about everyone with whom I interact, this question seems a favourite amongst all. I have lost the count of people who have given me an eye popping expression when I say, yes I am married and that too for a little over two years now! I sometimes am flattered that I do not really look the ‘married types’ to them. But then again what is being a “married TYPE”?
Sometimes the context in which people ask me is really annoying. Just because I seldom wear traditional outfits does not in any way tell anything about my marital status. Why is a married woman presumed to behave in a typical manner? Why do we have to typecast a married woman in a typical mould owning to her dressing and speaking style. Why do we associate a woman being married with the managlsutra she wears, the traditional outfits she dons, her giggling subtly, speaking only when spoken to and being soft spoken?
I have none of these traits. My closet is devoid of heavy jewellery and traditional outfits, they come out only on occasions like weddings and like. I guffaw, joke and laugh loudly, I am hardly soft spoken, I speak my mind and I am more than a blabbermouth. I love parties, I am a teetotaler but not really judgmental of people who drink, it’s just that I dislike its stench! I gorge on chocolates like a glutton. I am not really a great cook and my culinary skills are best when not spoken about. I love punching my computer and generating reports. I am a social media freak. Period. All this and more, do NOT in any way depict anything about my marital status.
I am happily married for more than 2 years now. I do not see myself changing according to the societal whims and fancies, yet plan to stay married forever.
Marriage is more than just traditional outfits and a certain piece of jewellery. And until the one I am married to, does not find me weird, I am more than happy to let others think what they want to!